High-Conflict Survival Guide

Working with Courts in High-Conflict Cases

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Understanding the Court's Role in High-Conflict Cases

In high-conflict divorces, the court becomes essential for protecting your rights and your children. Understanding how courts operate helps you use the system effectively.

What courts can do:

  • Enforce existing orders: Hold violating parties in contempt, impose fines or sanctions
  • Modify orders: Change custody, support, or parenting time based on changed circumstances
  • Issue protective orders: Restrict contact when safety is at risk
  • Appoint professionals: Custody evaluators, parenting coordinators, guardians ad litem
  • Make final decisions: When parents cannot agree, judges decide

What courts cannot do well:

  • Change personalities: Courts can order behavior, not attitude
  • Micromanage daily life: Judges handle major issues, not minor annoyances
  • Act quickly: Court calendars are crowded; emergency motions are reserved for true emergencies
  • Read minds: You must present evidence; judges only know what you prove

Courts are a last resort, but in high-conflict cases, they may be your only recourse for resolution.

Most judges have seen every type of high-conflict behavior. They are skilled at identifying manipulation, false accusations, and game-playing by either party.

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